Q: My fiancé and I are both a good mix of Alpha and Beta (we tested lime green on the quiz). As we prepare for marriage, I’m concerned that because I work for myself and he works for a traditional company, I’ll end up the de facto stay-at-home Mom when we have children. He is the breadwinner, and I don’t have a boss to report to like he does, but I take my work very seriously–and I hate the idea of one day waking up to realize I’ve unintentionally given up my career. How and when do you suggest we have a conversation? And how can my I make my argument valid?
A: Your concerns are valid. I advise you to begin a conversation as soon as possible sharing your concerns with your … More
Q: I scored Pink on your test (10% alpha, 66% beta) – what dating advice would you give to someone with this score? Although the test says we’re compatible with high alphas, are hybrids or alpha-leaning betas also a good match?
A: Dear Betababe You have a large spread between your alpha and beta scores…which means that you aim to bring up … More
Q: Hi Doc. I am a 33 year old physician, successful in my work , family and friendships. BUT I have not had a date in 10 years. I recently lost weight, I look good and love my body, still I can’t seem to get a date. I must admit that I do have hang ups about a history of infidelity that has occurred in my parents marriage and almost all the marriages in my family. But I do want to get married and have children. I do want to love someone and be loved in return without the fear of being cheated on. I know that there are no guarantees in life and I have to put myself out there.
A: It is hard to overcome shadows from your past which have stacked the deck against trust in an intimate relationship. … More
Q: I always enjoy bantering and sparring with people. When things get slow, I stir the pot by making some challenging remark. My boyfriend gets nervous and tells me he doesn’t like it when I ‘go over the top.’ Is he right?
A: Make sure to stay tuned in to your behavior. It’s okay to be a little provocative as long as it’s … More
Q: t parties I love to tell stories and be the center of attention. But I’ve noticed that most men I go out with want the same thing, so I mostly shut up and let them do the talking. Do I have to do that?
A: You need a guy who appreciates your charm and can let you be center stage — at least some of … More