What readers are saying:

sharon

I am an RD registered dietition with my own business. Being an Alpha female is something I am not ashamed of. It is the true me. I have a man's determination, but I use a feminine approach. I know what I want, and I can lead others to their own happiness.

Sharon
andrea

This is an eye-opening read. I always thought I had to be either Beta or Alpha, one extreme or another, and sought out partners like that. Rhodes had taken down some serious limiting beliefs I had about men and relationships.

Andrea
macey

I've lived with a man 18 years younger than I am for almost 14 years. He's lovely and smart and delicious and respectful of my independence. I detest the very demeaning and snarky term "cougar."

bianca

A fascinating and empowering book, and a must-read for any woman navigating the dating world in the modern age. After looking objectively at my own Alpha and Beta traits, Rhodes has allowed me to view my own patterns and relationships in a new light.

leanne

This book illuminates the way women think and act in a relate-able, fascinating way. I am a strong Alpha but also scored high in the Beta block, which demonstrated that we are all highly complex creatures and that there's room for learning, growing and even changing! What a great and helpful message.

Leanne
grace

I’m part Beta, a people-pleaser…not a bad trait as a local publisher. The Alpha girl in me needed more coaxing, because I didn’t want to be thought of as “pushy” or “aggressive.” Once I unleashed my Alpha, I realized my power as a woman and as a professional. I have new clout and even more public-figure status around town.

Grace, Publisher and Editor of Inside Chappaqua and Inside Armonk Magazines
loren

As an entrepreneur and CEO, I identify with the alpha female who's not afraid to seize an opportunity when I see it. I was empowered by Dr. Sonya's book.

Loren (Sweet Loren's)
VincentO'Keefe

As an at-home Beta dad of two daughters, I read this insightful book with an eye toward the future. Happy to report my Alpha wife and I are living the kind of partnership Dr. Rhodes describes. Just wrote a humorous memoir about it that I hope to publish soon!

Vincent (vincentokeefe.com)
veralyn

Though being a "strong black woman" is a cliché I have come to resent, I appreciate the nuance of the "alpha" woman label. For one its gives me, as an individual, the "credit" for being a leader who's hardworking. And empowers me to apply those same traits in every area of my life, unapologetically.

Veralyn (Veralyn Media)
sharon

I am an RD registered dietition with my own business. Being an Alpha female is something I am not ashamed of. It is the true me. I have a man's determination, but I use a feminine approach. I know what I want, and I can lead others to their own happiness.

Sharon
andrea

This is an eye-opening read. I always thought I had to be either Beta or Alpha, one extreme or another, and sought out partners like that. Rhodes had taken down some serious limiting beliefs I had about men and relationships.

Andrea
macey

I've lived with a man 18 years younger than I am for almost 14 years. He's lovely and smart and delicious and respectful of my independence. I detest the very demeaning and snarky term "cougar."

bianca

A fascinating and empowering book, and a must-read for any woman navigating the dating world in the modern age. After looking objectively at my own Alpha and Beta traits, Rhodes has allowed me to view my own patterns and relationships in a new light.

leanne

This book illuminates the way women think and act in a relate-able, fascinating way. I am a strong Alpha but also scored high in the Beta block, which demonstrated that we are all highly complex creatures and that there's room for learning, growing and even changing! What a great and helpful message.

Leanne
grace

I’m part Beta, a people-pleaser…not a bad trait as a local publisher. The Alpha girl in me needed more coaxing, because I didn’t want to be thought of as “pushy” or “aggressive.” Once I unleashed my Alpha, I realized my power as a woman and as a professional. I have new clout and even more public-figure status around town.

Grace, Publisher and Editor of Inside Chappaqua and Inside Armonk Magazines
loren

As an entrepreneur and CEO, I identify with the alpha female who's not afraid to seize an opportunity when I see it. I was empowered by Dr. Sonya's book.

Loren (Sweet Loren's)
VincentO'Keefe

As an at-home Beta dad of two daughters, I read this insightful book with an eye toward the future. Happy to report my Alpha wife and I are living the kind of partnership Dr. Rhodes describes. Just wrote a humorous memoir about it that I hope to publish soon!

Vincent (vincentokeefe.com)
veralyn

Though being a "strong black woman" is a cliché I have come to resent, I appreciate the nuance of the "alpha" woman label. For one its gives me, as an individual, the "credit" for being a leader who's hardworking. And empowers me to apply those same traits in every area of my life, unapologetically.

Veralyn (Veralyn Media)

In this liberating, straight-talking guide, relationship expert Dr. Rhodes argues that modern women—the audience who embraced Lean In—can find the right partner without having to change or settle, and tells them how to do it. More

 

 

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Ask Dr. Rhodes

Q: My fiancé and I are both a good mix of Alpha and Beta (we tested lime green on the quiz). As we prepare for marriage, I’m concerned that because I work for myself and he works for a traditional company, I’ll end up the de facto stay-at-home Mom when we have children. He is the breadwinner, and I don’t have a boss to report to like he does, but I take my work very seriously–and I hate the idea of one day waking up to realize I’ve unintentionally given up my career. How and when do you suggest we have a conversation? And how can my I make my argument valid?

A: Your concerns are valid. I advise you to begin a conversation as soon as possible sharing your concerns with your … More

Q: I scored Pink on your test (10% alpha, 66% beta) – what dating advice would you give to someone with this score? Although the test says we’re compatible with high alphas, are hybrids or alpha-leaning betas also a good match?

A: Dear Betababe You have a large spread between your alpha and beta scores…which means that you aim to bring up … More

Q: Hi Doc. I am a 33 year old physician, successful in my work , family and friendships. BUT I have not had a date in 10 years. I recently lost weight, I look good and love my body, still I can’t seem to get a date. I must admit that I do have hang ups about a history of infidelity that has occurred in my parents marriage and almost all the marriages in my family. But I do want to get married and have children. I do want to love someone and be loved in return without the fear of being cheated on. I know that there are no guarantees in life and I have to put myself out there.

A: It is hard to overcome shadows from your past which have stacked the deck against trust in an intimate relationship. … More

Q: I always enjoy bantering and sparring with people. When things get slow, I stir the pot by making some challenging remark. My boyfriend gets nervous and tells me he doesn’t like it when I ‘go over the top.’ Is he right?

A: Make sure to stay tuned in to your behavior. It’s okay to be a little provocative as long as it’s … More

Q: t parties I love to tell stories and be the center of attention. But I’ve noticed that most men I go out with want the same thing, so I mostly shut up and let them do the talking. Do I have to do that?

A: You need a guy who appreciates your charm and can let you be center stage — at least some of … More