Ask Dr. Rhodes

Given the fact that the economic gap between men and women has become much more narrow, is it now unreasonable to always expect the man to pick up the tab for a date?


The tradition of the man paying for the date is deeply embedded in our dating behavior. But the social norms are changing as younger women are closing the gender pay gap in many markets. My advice: It is always gracious to offer to pay by taking out your debit or credit card. If he insists, let him pay without further ado. If he is clearly making more money than you, you can let him pay but graciously buy tickets for the concert or the play you both want to go to. If you are equal wage earners, suggest taking turns paying for your entertainment  Just remember: 45% of household income is contributed by women these days.


—Sonya Rhodes, Ph.D.

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