Ask Dr. Rhodes

How do you recommend a woman in her mid-50’s who feels and looks much younger and is an Alpha Woman but is in rebuilding mode meet a great man for a long-term committed relationship? I’ve been doing and have met some nice men, but alas, am still looking for Mr. Right (I’m divorced a long time).


The best way to meet a man at your stage in life is through friends and the activities you enjoy. The gym, tennis court, bridge club, wine tasting clubs, an art or photography class, your church or synagogue activities etc… are just a few of the activities that I can think of off the top of my hat that are good ways to meet men. Actively follow your interests! Look for companionship. Consider younger men if they show interest. Widowers are a good bet.

On-line dating is probably not for you because of the laborious process of screening men for their real agenda. From what you said, it sounds like you want a relationship, not just a casual sexual encounter.
When you start dating someone, casually let them know that you are looking for a long term relationship. If he runs for the hills, you will not waste your time. If he sticks around, he wants what you want. Good luck!

—Sonya Rhodes, Ph.D.

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